‘Stay and Mingle’ or ‘Drop and Go’ Kid’s Parties

There comes a certain age when parents start to feel comfortable about leaving their children at a party by themselves. Should you invite your parent guests to stay? Should you just have kids at the party? Follow these kids party invitation rules to help you decide.

Usually around 7 years of age, is the age most parents feel good about a ‘drop and go’ party. If the parent knows you well and your children have had many a play date, they are likely to feel comfortable about leaving their child with you. Children with food allergies, severe shyness, disabilities or health difficulties may choose to have mum or dad close by with them, understandably. So be prepared for parents to request to be there, even if you have stated ‘drop and go’ on the invitation. Also be prepared for the opposite to happen, parents who feel comfortable leaving their child in your care even though they don’t know you from a bar of soap. It happens. Be prepared. Read on for our kids party invitation rules…


Here are some benefits of a ‘drop and go’ party

  • You won’t end up with extra, unexpected guests (siblings). Siblings can easily add up and lump you with an extra cost to consider and will likely want to join in on your entertainment, food, prizes, goodie bags etc.
  • You have less pressure to mingle with and entertain adult guests. It’s just you and the kids (and your Dancing Queen entertainer).


Don’t get us wrong; ‘stay and mingle’ parties are also great and can work really well! Here are some tips to make your ‘stay and mingle’ party perfection

  • Give the parents a separate space to mingle so the children can get on with their activities with out the chatter of the parents in the background (it can be really challenging for children to engage with an entertainer if there is a lot of background noise).
  • Set up a parent’s retreat area with some nibbles and drinks to encourage parents who don’t know each other well to mingle and chat. Parents are more likely to chat with each other if they have a dedicated space to relax.
  • Tell guests in advance if any entertainment booked is exclusively for the birthday child’s friends. Parents are sure to understand if you have booked in something special for just immediate friends.
  • Give siblings an alternative activity. Negotiate with your entertainer in advance for ways that siblings can be included without incurring an extra cost.

Some lines you might find useful to pop on your invitation

‘Drop and Go’ party – if you are more than happy for parents to leave their child with you.

Parents and siblings are invited to stay – if you are happy for parents and siblings to be there and join in on your party activities and food.

Parents, please stay at the party – use this line if you would prefer parents to stay and not drop and run off when you least expect it.

We are using a party entertainer to host our party so only [insert child’s name] guests will be able to participate in the entertainer’s activities, although siblings are welcome to watch – use this one if you don’t want siblings joining in on your paid entertainment but are happy for them to be there.


Kids party invitation rules:

  • If it’s a ‘drop and go’ party, collect every parents contact number! There is nothing worse than a child becoming sick or upset and wanting/needing their parent. Don’t be fooled, this does happen with older children so a parent contact number is imperative at every age.
  • Be upfront on the invitation with what you want so you don’t have to have awkward conversations on the day of the party.
  • Talk with your entertainer during the booking process about possible ways you can incorporate extra guests on the day.
  • Happy to have siblings in attendance? Ask parents to RSVP for siblings so you have a better idea of final numbers.
  • Keep in mind that it is often most convenient for parents to bring along their child’s sibling/s to your party.

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6 Rules for Kid’s Party Invitations

The Who, What, When, Where and Why of Children’s Birthday Party Invitations

Rules for Children's Party Invitations

So much thought goes into creating the guest list for your child’s party. You want to invite everyone that they dream to be there, and of course don’t want to hurt feelings of children who don’t make the cut for the guest list.

6 Rules for Children’s Party Invitations

  1. First thing to do is check with your school if your child is under 8 years of age. Some schools or classes have policies in regards to who you can invite to a party and how. You might have to invite everyone in your child’s class, or everyone of one gender, or anyone you like… but invitations cannot be given out at school. Follow these rules, as there is nothing worse than making someone feel left out. If there are children who have not been invited, ask your child not to discuss the party at school.  This can be a good learning experience for your child.
  2. How many guests to invite? This amount affects your budget in more ways than one. The bigger the group, the more people you need to entertain, the more people to feed and the more people to accommodate in your space (you might need to hire a community hall if you have a huge group of kids.) But. Lots of guests does make for a FUN and LOUD party atmosphere.
  3. How do I cut down my guest list? Consider having a ‘friends only’ party. Invite your family to something more low key rather than trying to include everyone at the one event. Consider inviting only one gender. If parents and siblings are invited to stay, define on your invitation that parents and siblings are invited to stay. Siblings are likely to join in if they are there!
  4. When to send? We recommend you send your invitations out about 3 weeks in advance.
  5. Dress code. Add this to your invite if you’d like everyone dressed in a particular way. This is especially important for a themed party. Something along the lines of, “Come dressed in your favourite ballet costume.”
  6. Always have an RSVP date! This will ensure you know whom to expect on the day. It is likely that not everyone will remember to RSVP, so expect to have to chase people up, or be willing to accommodate extras on the day. We suggest having a few extra party bags, prizes and food, just in case.

You can download our character themed invitations for your child’s Dancing Queen Party on our Dance Party Invitations page.

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